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Stop waiting for the right person to show up. Become the person who is ready to recognize, receive, and keep them. If you’re tired of the chaos, it’s not just about finding “better” people. It’s about building a better internal structure.
Does this sound like your dating life?
Join experts from Mind, Brain and Body Lab as well as Sova Dating as they guide you through becoming who you seek.
- You date from depletion: You are burnt out, tired, and relying on adrenaline or “chemistry” to get you through a date.
- You over-function: You carry the emotional labor for two, negotiating your needs away to avoid losing the connection.
- You spiral in the uncertainty: Double-texting, obsessively checking, and feeling emotional whiplash when they go quiet.
- You confuse intensity with intimacy: You chase the highs of “potential” rather than the safety of consistency.
Ready to find love by becoming the person who can hold it?
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Introducing: The Emotional Availability Ladder
Regulation → Boundaries → Emotional Access → Repair → Mutuality
Most people date backwards. They look for “Mutuality” (Step 5) without having “Regulation” (Step 1).
At Become Who You Seek 2026, we are teaching a Maslow-style model for dating readiness. We start with the body, then move to self-structure, then intimacy skills.
You cannot build a secure relationship on an unregulated nervous system.
The 5 Pillars of the event
The Foundation: “I am safe with me.” Before you text back, before you swipe, before you plan the date—is your body safe? We’ll teach you to stop using dating to regulate your loneliness.
- The Shift: Moving from “crisis bonding” to consistent reliability.
- The Skill: The 90-Second Reset. Learn to downshift your nervous system so you can respond with discernment, not panic.
The Standard: “Access is earned through consistency.” Chemistry is not a green light; behavior is. We will stop the cycle of over-functioning for partners who under-deliver.
- The Shift:Â From “going with the flow” (and secretly resenting it) to pacing intimacy honestly.
- The Skill:Â 3 Standards / 3 Consequences. Learn how to state a boundary without apologizing for it.
The Connection: “You can actually know me.” Can you be vulnerable without handing over the steering wheel of your life? We’ll cover how to share your inner world without performing or shutting down.
- The Shift: From intellectualizing your feelings (“I think I feel…”) to naming them in real-time.
- The Skill: The 3-Part Expression. “I feel ___. I need ___. I’m asking for ___.”
The Safety: “We don’t punish honesty here.” Conflict is inevitable; destruction is not. A secure relationship isn’t one without fighting—it’s one where rupture leads to return.
- The Shift: From withdrawal and stonewalling to accountability and change.
- The Skill: The Repair Script. How to apologize cleanly and require the same in return.
The Goal: “Love is co-created, not earned.” Stop auditioning for a role in someone else’s life. Mutuality means shared effort, shared planning, and shared emotional labor.
- The Shift: From exciting-but-lopsided entanglements to boring-but-beautiful consistency.
- The Skill: The 2-Week Symmetry Check. How to measure reciprocity without keeping score.
The OutCome
When you climb the ladder, your dating life changes.
To your nervous system, you will say:
“I’m not abandoned. I’m resourced. We don’t have to panic to get needs met.”
To a partner, you will signal:
“I’m stable enough to choose you, not cling to you. My yes is clean. My no is clean.”
This event is for you if:
- You are ready to stop crisis-bonding and start connecting.
- You want a nervous system that supports executive function—allowing you to spot red flags before you get attached.
- You are done trading your needs for approval.
